In a previous blog, we introduced you to the work of death doulas, aka end of life doulas. Our new friend, Wendy Longacre Brown, shares a bit more about doing legacy work with her clients. Epilogg believes it too: Stories matter. For everyone.
Step 1: Don’t write an obituary! Create an Epilogg instead. The traditional obituary limits you with only so many words and a tiny black & white image – something that could never show the colorful and complicated lives we want to celebrate. Epilogg helps you bring the life to your tribute. For free.
Educate us! What is a death doula?
A death doula–-also known as an end of life doula–empowers a dying person or their family to create a meaningful transition by providing s emotional, spiritual, physical and educational support. It’s never too early to bring a death doula on, and it’s never too late.
First thing every morning, my dad used to scan the obituary section of the local newspaper. He’d say, “If I don’t see my name, it’s a good day.” True. I’ve taken to reading the obituaries too, though not every day. It’s a rather strange experience to be looking through a list of dead people for someone you know. I find most obits are cold, short death notices that tell you when there might be a service or how to send a memorial donation to the deceased’s favorite charity. Valuable information yes, but not really an end of life exclamation point,
If I died today, I’m sure my nearly 60 years of life would be summed up in an obituary a couple of paragraphs long. I’m stoic by nature, so the humble understatement should probably be considered a compliment or at least appropriate. I think the obituary I wrote when my dad died was about four paragraphs. My dad was 90. It took a lot of effort to squish 90 years of living into four short paragraphs when the military and relatives took up two of them. It certainly didn’t do justice to a life well-lived but I’m sure my dad